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1. Money This is a tricky one, especially if you've got joint expenses like a pet, bills or even an apartment. So before you talk about any plans to share expenses, consider first that money is one of the leading causes of divorce in America today. Ask yourself why. Oh, you're not married? So, why bother with one of the most stressful issues married couples deal with. While sharing money isn't a definitive "no can do," it's something to be carefully examined and not rushed into.
2. Passwords If you're young and in love then you're probably thinking that your significant other volunteering their password is the best way to gain trust. No - not unless they've violated before; in that case, it's one of the first things I'd tell you to do. You may or may not have anything to hide. Your inbox could consist of scoops on the latest Idol outcast, but it's your right to keep it to yourself.
3. Facebook Account No, not facebook passwords, but facebook accounts. You probably wouldn't believe it if I told you but there are actually some couples out there who have joint facebook or other social networking accounts. Gag, right? It's more harmful than one would think. What you're telling the world is that you're one person. Social networks are meant to substantiate identity. The healthiest relationships are those made up of two individuals.
4. A Best Friend Having mutual friends is ordinary, but if you both set your stakes in the same best friend, issues can arise. Trio outings can be fun and dandy, but during arguments things can get competitive. Going to the same person for comfort or a venting session could leave the third party in an awkward situation. You may even force them to take sides! Then you've turned a tiny argument into World War III. Have your mutual friends, but if at all possible, have your own best friends or leave the one best friend out of it.
5. Conversations about Your Ex Hey, let the past be the past. Easier said than done, of course, but unrelenting conversations about your ex, whether positive or negative, can drive a wedge between you and yours. You're in a new relationship now, let go of the past and make the most of this one. If you can't, then you probably shouldn't be a new relationship. |
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Make his all-time favorite childhood dish Brace yourselves, this one takes a call to his mama. Surprise him with a favorite home-cooked meal from his childhood.
Be young Attend a concert from the band that set the soundtrack to your romantic beginning. Go for the cheap seats and drink beer on the lawn like old times.
Create your relationship soundtrack Go the way of the modern mixed tape and create a playlist that includes the first song you danced to, your favorite make-out tunes, and your wedding song. Rev his engine by popping your romantic soundtrack into his car so it's the first thing he hears when starts the ignition.
Celebrate his hometown Surprising him with something that reminds him of home is a thoughtful way to show how much you care. Imagine his surprise when he finds his favorite hometown donuts shipped right to his front door!
Give a hug and don't let go Go big or go home with an uncomfortably long bear hug.
Appeal to the kid in him Nothing is sweeter than the gift of nostalgia. eBay is a great resource for the old board games and toys of his childhood like this listing for a 1978 Battleship game from eBay.
See something beautiful together Bring a picnic and enjoy the view of a sunrise, sunset, the ocean, or beautiful scenery - a simple, serene, and romantic gesture.
Write your love story If you're not a writer, don't despair. Dig up those old emails and love notes that started it all and organize them chronologically into a keepsake book.
Drive somewhere ... anywhere Pack an overnight bag and an appetite for adventure and just drive. Go without a plan, without a map, and without expectations.
Kiss like the French do Oo la la! Surprise him and go for the sexy gusto in a fiery public display of affection. |
| 4 WAYS TO SUPPORT YOUR MAN |
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1. Trust him. Yes, we live in a culture that preaches that "All men are dogs," and "Guys will sleep with anyone." Those assumptions are so totally untrue. Men have a loyalty gene that begins to kick in the moment that someone who matters exhibits real trust and faith in them. So when he says, "I love you," KNOW that he means it.
2. Show Optimism. When he comes home with a harebrained scheme about building a rocket to the moon, respond to him, "Fantastic! I can't wait to get there!" Sure it may seem a little nutty for anyone who isn't an astrophysicist, but he sure will LOVE the fact that you're on board regardless of the improbability of him completing that rocket. And your support is always an extra incentive - because your guy wants to reward your unconditional support.
3. Push him. Once he decides to build that rocket, don't let him get away with NOT doing it! There's a fine line though: do not turn his lack of completion into an insult. Guys tend to thrive on a gentle mixture of belief and prodding. Unless you're with a guy who never seems to complete anything, you can't hammer him with, "What happened to that rocket you were supposed to build? I knew you wouldn't do it!" No, you want to go with something more along the lines of, "How is your rocket project going? How can I help you keep at it?" The message you're sending is that you believe in him and that you want him to succeed. He'll love you even more for that.
4. Remember that he's your partner. There's something to the saying, "Let a man be a man." Guys want to provide and protect. This desire is probably driven in some aspects by biology but to an even greater extent, societal and sociological influences. And those influences are intense. The pressure to be that protector/provider is great, sometimes suffocating. Assure him that your love and support for him is unconditional. Let him know that you two are a team; working together towards the same goals... and that the success of your relationship is up to both of you. |
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| MILA KUNIS' STALKER ARRESTED |
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Mila Kunis survived a terrifying brush with danger last Friday, after a 27-year-old man named Stuart Dunn was arrested outside the Body Maxx Health Club in Beverly Hills. According to reports, Stuart had followed Mila to the gym three days in a row and spooked the starlet so much that she called the Los Angeles Police Department. Stuart was arrested in January for breaking into her home and was sentenced to 60 days in jail and three years' probation. Based on that sentence, the 5-foot-7, 125-pound alleged stalker could find himself behind bars in the near future. Police confirmed to The New York Daily News that Stuart was detained and hospitalized for evaluation. A judge will determine if he did in fact violate his probation, and if he should be jailed. |
| 13 THINGS WOMEN WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND ABOUT MEN |
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Your need to fix everything When we cried because our boss was a jerk, we didn't expect you to come up with a plan to get him fired. Why can't you just let us be sad and pretend to listen?
Oblivious to a single detail Your best friend called to tell you he had a baby. You don't know the baby's name, or even the baby's gender. You do however know that we're out of beer.
Sleeping through a crying baby We know you're not really sleeping. Oh yes, we know. We're also keeping score.
The combover The combover has never once fooled anyone into thinking you have hair. Never once.
Booby Kryptonite They're just boobs; breathe. You know who else has boobs? Your mom.
Not knowing when something's wrong When we say "nothing" is wrong, it means everything is so completely wrong that we don't even have enough hours in this lifetime to adequately express how wrong everything is.
Thinking we know where your stuff is Why would we know where your jockstrap is? We didn't use it last.
Sex as a cure-all You just lost your job and then learned your mom is sick in the hospital. Who's up for sex?
Your mother is a saint Except she's not. Not even close. A saint might have taught you to put the lid down.
Your definition of babysitting Watching your neighbor's kid is called babysitting. Watching your own kid is called parenting. The more you know.
Scratching in public You call it "adjusting". We call it disgusting.
Dirty clothes outside the hamper We find dirty clothes next to the hamper, semi-near the hamper, but rarely inside the hamper.
Snoring Grizzly Adams, for the love of all things holy, what the hell is up with your snoring? |